BUKA MULUT: MEN DON'T CRY, DO THEY?

Who said that a man has no right to cry? Who are you to tell what a man can or cannot do? Who said that crying is only for women?

Both men and women are human, made of the same materials (if I may say so), and have - of course - emotions. Both can feel happy, sad, annoyed etc. What makes them different is physical appearance (resulted in different role) and social treatment. The later is not originated from God's rule. It's a cultural product.

Women are always considered weaker than men. On the other hand, men have to be always stronger, tougher than woman, physically and emotionally. That's not fair. Crying is one of emergency way to get better when we feel sad. If the sadness is too much to handle, then what else can we do? Cry! This is much better than pretending that we are strong (because of we are men) while we have no way to make our burden lighter. It has no relation at all with strength or weakness. This is only a way to avoid from being deppressed by our sadness.

But what we will find in this real world is there is a kind of convention that men don't cry. That's why most of men look very tough in public, but they cry out loud in their own hidden-private-room. This is still better than trying to pretend as a tough people anytime and not to cry when it is time to cry.

The question is why should we do a very hard efford not to cry, while we can easily laugh anywhere (in public or private sphere)? This is what I called unfair. Some experts say that both laugh or cry stimulate our brain to create a chemical reaction so that we feel better, even when we are very depressed. Referring to this, I suggest you not to feel ashamed when you want to cry. Just let your tears drop down your cheeks when you think that could make you feel better. Just be natural, even if you're a man!